Have you ever found yourself saying “yes” to something you knew you should have said “no” to? It happens to everyone.
The concept of “no” is extremely important, yet equally challenging to master. I found myself struggling to say no because I wanted to keep up with standards that were made in a different, less busy era of my life. One day I realized: Doing less and saying no actually demonstrates confidence, self-worth, self-health, clarity, and discernment for what is most important to you, AND, what’s more, it’s Biblical.
But how do we know what to say “no” to?
We set boundaries.
How do we set boundaries? Keep reading :o)
Dr. Henry Cloud defines a boundary as a property line. It denotes the beginning and the end of something. He also clarifies one very important distinction – it is important to understand who owns the property. Let me be clear here, YOU SHOULD own YOUR property.
You choose what to do and what to allow in your life. You get to make choices that are the very best for your family, career, and for yourself. It is important to confirm your choices Biblically and make space for them proudly. There is no need to apologize for your decisions or criticize yourself for making the best selection of options at the time. The challenge is, most women make their decisions reactively instead of proactively.
We neglect how essential it is to be quiet with ourselves and prioritize what is scheduled in our calendar and what needs to be removed for the current season of our life. If you are like me, you know this is true, but still struggle to find the time to prioritize your time. This is a self-debilitating cycle of staying too busy to become less busy, so nothing ever changes.
We lack clarity and confidence in our daily lives, so we miss out on the passion and purpose God laid on our hearts.
This causes us not to reach our potential. When we abandon our potential, we limit those around us as well.
Friends, it’s time to take control of your schedule and your life. When you are able to get clear on what you want to say “yes” to, it becomes much easier to confidently say “no” without feeling guilty or regretful. Boundaries allow you to start living a peaceful, yet purposeful life impacting those around you.
Great news, to help I created a guide to help (keep scrolling to grab your free copy!), but here’s a sneak peek of my tactical tips for creating boundaries in your life:
- Prioritize time to ponder and plan
- Picture a poised presence
- Practice. Practice saying “Yes!” and Practice saying “No!”
- Progress over perfection
Want more? I dig into the “how” and “why” behind these tips, helpful Scripture, plus real-world examples in my (free!) resource below!
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“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”